Couples therapy for
relationships that are
worth the work.
Something has shifted, or maybe it's been shifting for a while. Either way, you're here. I work with couples navigating real complexity — communication breakdown, trust ruptures, desire discrepancy, and the slow erosion that happens when two people stop finding their way back to each other.
Does any of this
sound familiar?
If you're reading this, something brought you here. That's usually enough to start.
Schedule a Free Consultation- You've had the same fight so many times you could script each other's lines. Nothing gets resolved. You just run out of steam.
- Sex has become infrequent enough that neither of you brings it up anymore — and the silence around it has become its own kind of problem.
- There's a low-grade anger or resentment that lives just below the surface of most interactions, even the ordinary ones.
- You divide up the household and the kids and the logistics, but somewhere along the way you stopped being partners and started being roommates.
- Something happened — an affair, a disclosure, a betrayal of some kind — and you're still in it, not sure whether you're healing or just managing.
- One of you wants to stay. The other isn't sure. And you're both exhausted by not saying that out loud.
- You love each other. You're just not sure you like each other right now.
- You've tried therapy before. It felt balanced on the surface but one person's experience kept getting centered. You're not doing that again.
- Your relationship doesn't fit a conventional structure — ENM, polyamory, kink, mixed-orientation — and you need a therapist who won't treat that as the problem.
- You're not in crisis. Things are just flat. And flat has started to feel like its own kind of emergency.
Just as emotional and physical intimacy are connected, sex therapy and couples therapy are not separate — and I work with both.
A structured intake.
A clear starting point.
Couples therapy works best when both people feel they've been seen individually before the joint work begins. My intake process is designed to do exactly that — and to give us real information to work from before we set a direction.
Free 15-Minute Consultation
We talk briefly — both of you on the call — about what's bringing you in and whether this feels like the right fit. No pressure, no commitment.
First Session Together
We meet as a trio. I want to hear from both of you before I've formed any impressions. Starting together matters — it sets a foundation of fairness that the rest of the work builds on.
Individual Sessions + Assessment
I meet separately with each partner. This gives each person space to say what they might not say in front of the other. Alongside this, I use the Gottman Relationship Checkup — a comprehensive assessment that surfaces important dynamics early, rather than waiting for them to emerge over months of sessions.
Back Together with a Roadmap
We reconvene as a couple. I share what I've observed and we agree on a direction — specific, realistic, and grounded in what's actually going on in your relationship rather than a generic treatment plan.
The things couples find
hardest to talk about.
Communication and Conflict
Not just how to fight less, but how to actually hear each other. Many couples have become so practiced at defending themselves that genuine listening has stopped. We work on changing that pattern.
Desire Discrepancy and Sexual Disconnection
When partners want sex at different frequencies, or when intimacy has quietly stopped, the silence around it tends to grow. This is one of the most common and most treatable issues couples face — and one of the least talked about.
Infidelity and Trust Ruptures
Affairs, emotional infidelity, undisclosed behavior — these create a specific kind of damage that requires a specific kind of repair. Not all couples choose to stay, and both paths are valid. The work is about clarity, not a predetermined outcome.
LGBTQ+, ENM, and Kink-Affirming Work
Your relationship structure is the starting point, not a detour. I work with polyamorous couples navigating transitions, ENM partnerships with communication challenges, kink-involved relationships, and mixed-orientation couples — without treating any of it as the problem to be solved.
Stay-or-Go Decisions
Sometimes one or both partners are genuinely unsure whether they want to continue the relationship. That's a legitimate reason to come to therapy. The goal isn't to keep the relationship together at any cost — it's to help you both make a clear, informed decision about what comes next.
Rebuilding After Distance
Relationships don't usually break dramatically. More often they erode — through stress, logistics, parenting, inattention. If you've found yourselves living parallel lives and want to find your way back to each other, that's work we can do.
What you can expect
from this practice
I take both people seriously. That sounds simple. In practice, it shapes everything.
Evenhanded by Design
My structured intake — individual sessions before joint work begins — is built specifically to prevent one partner's narrative from dominating. Both people get to be heard before the work starts.
Gottman Method Informed
Empirically validated couples work focused on trust, communication, and the specific patterns that predict whether a relationship will make it. Not intuition. Evidence.
Sex Therapy Integrated
I'm a Certified Sex Therapist. When intimacy and desire are part of what's broken — and they often are, even when couples come in for "communication" — I'm equipped to work with that directly.
Affirming of All Structures
LGBTQ+, ENM, polyamorous, kink-involved, mixed-orientation: all part of the everyday practice here. Your relationship structure is not a disclaimer. It's the context.
Fully Virtual
Telehealth in New York, Connecticut, and Michigan. Secure, HIPAA-compliant, and accessible from wherever you both are — which for couples, often matters.
"I've also sat in the client chair. I know what it costs when a therapist doesn't hold both people's realities evenhandedly. That experience is part of why I built this process the way I did."
Book Your Free 15-Minute ConsultationBefore you
reach out
Still not sure if this is the right fit? Reach out directly — that's what the consultation is for.
Let's ConnectDo both partners have to come to the first session?
Yes. I begin with all three of us in the room. Starting together — before I've met with either person individually — matters because it prevents either partner from feeling like the other had a head start. From there, I meet with each person separately before we reconvene as a couple with a shared direction.
What if one of us isn't sure they want to be in therapy?
That's not unusual, and it doesn't have to be a reason to wait. The free consultation is a low-stakes place to ask questions and get a sense of whether this feels worth trying. One person being uncertain doesn't mean the other has to be.
Do you work with couples who aren't sure they want to stay together?
Yes. Discernment — figuring out whether to continue the relationship — is legitimate work, and it's something I'm experienced with. The goal isn't to keep every couple together. It's to help both people make a clear decision rather than staying stuck in ambivalence.
Is couples therapy covered by insurance?
No. Couples therapy is not covered by insurance and superbills are not available for these sessions, since the work addresses the relationship rather than an individual diagnosis. All couples sessions are out-of-pocket.
Do you work with nontraditional relationship structures?
Yes — ENM, polyamory, kink-involved relationships, mixed-orientation couples, and others are all part of the everyday practice here. Your structure is not a complication. It's the starting point.
A free 15-minute consultation.
No pressure, no commitment.
You've probably been sitting with this for a while. A consultation call is a low-stakes way to ask a question, get a sense of how I work, and figure out if this is the right fit. It costs nothing and doesn't obligate either of you to anything.
